Bro, you gotta be done with her, if she did it more than once it wasn't a mistake, or accident. She needs to grow the **** up right now, if you guys had a kid together already, she should have grown up right then. If it is your kid, you shouldn't stay together just for the kids, it can be worse that way. Its time for you to get out and show her up. You can do so much better than that, all she has done is show you how low of a person she is. What is a person like that worth, if it is not any harder for another man to do this? I wouldn't even call him a man. There are some GREAT girls out there that love men with kids. Some women find nothing more attractive than a good daddy. You are grown up, she is scum. Kick her *** to the curb and take your kid(s) with you. She deserves for her life to be as miserable as she has made yours. This is only an opportunity, an opening of a door, for you to start a new better life. Its a sign from up above man, you can do better. She does not deserve you. She may tell you she's sorry, that it was a mistake. No!! She is old enough to know right from wrong, she knew exactly what she was doing. I feel for ya bro, i have had things just like this happen to me more than once. We didn't have kids together, might as well have, i took her child 3 months old, in as my own. I was her daddy for 4 years. Then this happened. We weren't together for 8 years, only 4. If you are too good to somebody, they tend to forget what it can be like without you, thus taking you for granted. Let her see what it is like without you. This makes me wish i was there, i love hurting guys like that. I wanna gather up the boys for a road trip!!! It just really makes me mad to see somebody hurt like this, over somebody that isn't worth it. I have felt it, all i did was drink and drink to try and feel a little better, but it didn't help. If you don't know what it feels like to love somebody and then find out they have done something that shows you they didn't care about you, or weren't thinking of you, you wouldn't understand. A persons heart is the worst thing to mess with. It hurts more than anything else could ever hurt physically. It will be the past, and if you don't want to live in the past, or think about the past then the best thing to do is get away from it and make a new future.